Textual Harassment – Takes Abusive Relationships to New Depths
Scary statement: “Parents don’t know this is going on whatsoever.”
What’s “this“?
It’s a form of abuse and bullying called textual harassment. And, it’s dangerous. Abusive relationships have been around a really long time, and technology now makes the abuse much easier. Harassers can, and do, send hundreds of text messages a day, at any time of the day and night, which are threatening, intrusive or full of lies.
But, the problem isn’t just with text messaging. According to an article in The Washington Post, textual harassment is only one part of abusive relationships. Kasey Kirkland, a victim services specialist with the Fairfax County Police Department, says that “the advances in technology are assisting the perpetrators in harassing and stalking and threatening their victims.”
The message for parents and friends is the same as always, but every bit as important:
1. Start early: Set boundaries about cell phone use and stick to them. Teens don’t need to have a cell phone with them while they (try to) sleep at night. Many of the harassing and abusive text messages come during the night when your teen should feel safe at home, asleep in her bed.
2. Don’t be afraid of arguments and fights. Sometimes the biggest fights will be about what is most important — keeping your teenager safe.
3. Stay in touch with your teen. Promise her that all she has to do is let you know she needs a new phone with a different number, and she’ll get it.
4. Let her know that she doesn’t have to be afraid of what you’ll say. Promise. Mean it.
5. If you see or hear something that just doesn’t “add up,” don’t wait. Take action.
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